About Lonay – Gay Relationship Coach
Helping gay men heal deep relationship patterns, rebuild self-worth, and create healthy, emotionally available love.
I’m Lonay Halloum, a gay relationship coach, and Rapid Transformational Therapy® practitioner. I help gay men who are tired of toxic dating patterns and emotionally unavailable partners finally feel safe, chosen, and grounded in love, starting from the inside out.
My Journey to Becoming a Gay Relationship Coach
“I didn’t become a gay relationship coach because everything in my love life was easy.”
I grew up in a war‑torn country, navigating fear, instability, and the constant sense that who I was might not be fully accepted. Like many gay men, I learned early on to hide parts of myself—to stay safe, to keep the peace, to be “good enough” for others.
That kind of upbringing doesn’t just disappear when you come out or move to a new city. It lives in your nervous system. It shows up in the men you’re drawn to, the love you tolerate, and the way you abandon yourself to not be abandoned by others.
For years, I found myself in patterns that felt painfully familiar:
Chasing emotionally unavailable men
Confusing intensity with intimacy
Staying too long in relationships that hurt
Feeling like I was always “too much” or “not enough”
"On the outside, I was functioning. On the inside, I was exhausted."
Therapy, RTT®, hypnotherapy, and deep inner work changed everything.
I began to understand where my patterns came from, and more importantly, that they could be changed. I started to build a relationship with myself that was kinder, safer, and more honest than anything I’d experienced before.
Radiant Hearts Transformation grew out of that journey.
Why I Care So Deeply About Gay Men and Love
Today, I work primarily with gay men who are:
💔Stuck in cycles of gay heartbreak and toxic dating patterns
💔Drawn to emotionally unavailable or inconsistent partners
💔Afraid that if they leave the wrong relationship, they’ll end up alone
💔Tired of feeling like love is always an emotional rollercoaster
I care so deeply about this work because I know how heavy it can feel to carry all of this alone, especially as a gay man navigating family expectations, cultural or religious pressure, and a dating culture that can feel chaotic and unkind.
My intention is to offer a space where you don’t have to explain or justify your experience as a gay man. We start from a place of understanding and go deeper from there.
Credentials, Training, and Where I’ve Been Featured
Certified Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®) practitioner
Certified hypnotherapist
Founder of Radiant Hearts Transformation
Host of the podcast Ghosted, Gagged and Gay!
Guest on multiple podcasts for gay men and LGBTQ+ healing, including episodes on emotionally unavailable partners, toxic patterns, and rebuilding self‑worth
Featured in outlets like the Toronto Sun and Well Beings News
If you’d like to explore my interviews and articles, you can see a full list here:
My Approach: Subconscious Healing, Safety, and Practical Change
Radiant Hearts Transformation combines:
Rapid Transformational Therapy (RTT®)
Mindfulness
Coaching and
integration work
In our work together, we will:
Explore the early experiences and beliefs that shaped how you show up in love
Use RTT® to release old emotional imprints and rewire your subconscious beliefs about love, safety, and worthiness
Build gay self‑love and self‑trust, so you stop settling for crumbs in relationships
Practice new ways of relating, so you can feel grounded, honest, and secure in love, not just understand it intellectually
If This Resonates, Let’s Talk
If you see yourself in these patterns and you’re ready to do the deeper work, I’d love to meet you.
We can explore where you are, what you want, and whether my 10‑week gay relationship coaching program, Radiant Hearts Transformation, is the right fit for you.
